My Thoughts on Parenting
I want my child to enjoy their childhood, to be happy and know that they are loved. That’s the most important thing. I look forward to enjoying the precious experience of parenting.
I want to teach my child about respect and the importance of basic manners. To follow the “golden rule” always say “please” “thank you”, “sorry”, “excuse me” and to be considerate of others. Even though basic, I believe that showing respect for others, caring for them and being grateful can be the foundation for a future filled with happiness for ones self as well as those around them. The way I was disciplined growing up was strict but I believe it helped build my character and determination to never give up and my dedication to always trying to do my best. This discipline taught me to consider other people, never forget to have appreciation for someone/something and good common sense - not to be selfish, maintain a clean home, cook good food and maintain good health, etc. A disciplined environment helped to make me a independent, professional and a contributing member of society and I hope to share these value with my son or daughter. I want my child to learn basic living skills and to be able to help them become independent emotionally and financially as well as become a stable, strong, warm-hearted, loving human being. When I was a child, and my parents and grandparents were strict I couldn’t understand why. I felt sad from time to time, but other extended family members helped me to understand their thinking. They explained the reasons for their rules and comforted me. In a loving way I will explain to my child why they’re being disciplined verbally, the purpose of it and I will offer answers when questions or frustration arises. This is because I want my child to think about what they’ve done and how to change their behavior so it’s more beneficial to themselves and others in the long run. I believe that if a child is told in a one-way manner, “do this! do that!” with no explanation they can become very frustrated and end up only fixing behavior to please the caregiver. I think the better long-term solution is to try and get a child to understand the results of their actions. I want to help my child to think about ‘why’ he/she is doing something, instead of just being controlled. I want my child to grow into a strong confident adult who will have skills to accomplish many things in their life. |